I find that many a good relationship article idea is born in much the same way
It usually occurs towards the tail-end of a week, roughly 2 to 3 drinks down, with my group of closest girlfriends. This one was no exception. Over a cocktail or two at yet another new Soho pop-up cocktail bar last Thursday evening, surrounded by 8 close girlfriends, the conversation turned to cheating. More precisely, what really counts as cheating.
Opinions were, naturally, divided. Some of us agreed we would forgive certain acts of cheating over others, whilst others of the group, myself included, felt that at this age kissing someone was as much cheating as sex. I’m of the thought that if you’re emotionally invested enough or attracted to another person to kiss them it’s just as unforgivable if you were to have sex. The point of this conversation, however, was not necessarily what we would or wouldn’t forgive, but rather what we thought was or wasn’t cheating. Obviously having a full blown affair and sleeping with other women is cheating – that goes without saying, but everything from sleeping in the same bed as another woman to going for drinks and dinners with a female work colleague?
“I wouldn’t break up with someone if they were flirting with other people, but I wouldn’t turn a blind eye to it either. It’s obviously not cheating so to speak, but if they were then having one-on one drinks or dinners with that person I would start to question it pretty seriously – it’s emotionally cheating in my eyes.”